Is Praise Good Discipline?
"I read in a few different places that you should praise for the good things a child does even if it's the little things. I guess the overall idea is that if a child doesn't get a lot of attention he will act out or be naughty to get attention."
This parent's concern came to my office recently. First, I prefer the word "compliment" or "acknowledge" when commenting on a child's good behavior. It is appropriate to recognize and compliment a child for cooperation, etc. Children repeat the behaviors that bring them attention. So to successfully guide a child's behavior, point out what's right and you'll see more of it.
However, some people overdue a good thing! You can over-compliment a child to the nth degree where he becomes what I call a "compliment junky." He's so hooked on what you say that he needs outward affirmation to behave.
In your daily discipline, frequently (not always) acknowledge what your child is doing right. This is what psychologists call "random reward" and it's very effective.
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